Pune VEDH that celebrated the theme “Follow your Dream” was one of the best VEDH programs I have attended; precisely because it opened my eyes to a million realizations and started shaping a perspective.
Perhaps the most memorable session of all was that of naval officers Abhilash Tomy and Captain Dilip Donde. Captain Donde is the first Indian to have completed a solo unassisted circumnavigation of the globe under sail. Commander Abhilash Tomy is the first Indian to complete a solo, unassisted, non- stop circumnavigation. The session is etched so deeply in memory for one big reason- it opened my eyes to a new world. It was centered around something that I don’t quite associate myself with, the seas. I see myself flying a plane in a parallel universe, and one of the things in my bucket list for the life I am living right now is to drive a huge truck on North Indian roads… come down a bit to Punjab then eat at a Dhaba and drown myself in lassi (the most important bit)… nap in the truck and finally board a flight back to Pune. Strangely however, I never see myself doing anything with the element of water. Not that I am afraid, intimidated by the fact that the seas look so different on the surface and we know it to be the complete opposite of monotonous, violent at times and with a lack of life on the inside maybe; but I call my relationship with the sea (or a lack thereof), more neutral, aloof, with a lack of ties; all owing to not having dived enough into the depth of its beauty.
One would think this neutrality with the sea would spill over into the lens with which I watched Commander Abhilash Tomy and Captain Dilip Donde speak; but the reality was a hundred and eighty degrees opposite to that. Both the speakers let the audiences so eloquently into their worlds, that empathy became a companion throughout the session. The session left me mesmerized, with tonnes of insights and information.
A few years later, Tomy was in news because of a major accident he suffered, while sailing for the Golden Globe Race in 2018. Commander Tomy was the only Asian participant, invited to participate in the race, that had them sail on small boats, using resources and technology from the year year 1968. After a particularly bad storm, Commander Tomy fractured his spine in the accident. The ordeal lasted for three and a half days before he was rescued.
Having heard him at VEDH, and more importantly, having empathized with his passion for sailing, I naturally followed the news, distressed by the accident, relieved by the rescue and then nothing less than frighteningly enlightened by his interviews following his amazing recovery.
After having been a virtual witness to all the above, I have this to say; Cdr. Tomy, to me, is the epitome of resilience. Resilience, in psychological lay terms is conceptualized as ‘bouncing back’. But I have come to believe it is more than that. It is a ‘way of being’ in the face of adversity. Two comparative visualizations come to mind. When one says ‘resilience’, I do not see a figure falling down into depths and springing back up because his coping resources made him a trampoline. I picture it like this: A person standing in a fixed position, boxes marked for where his feet should be; extremely speedy and harsh winds blow, attempting to move them from their position and throw them into losing themselves. The winds bring with them all kinds of objects….. injuring the person. The task requires enduring the pressure and holding our selves into the face of it. The resilient will sure move, but the least.
Resilience is having clarity of and being loyal to one’s goal, one’s dream. It is finding one’s way to the summit, no matter how many avalanches. Journeying with determination to fulfill the dream, perseverance in the face of odd, self- discipline and emotional regulation to keep you on track.
When talking about how he faced the accident, Cdr. Tomy tells the interviewer all that he did to be what we are now calling ‘resilient’. He managed his physical symptoms after the fall, sent a short text message to the race organizer reporting his conditions and lay on his bunk bed with his thoughts- which could have been his worst enemy. He started making a mental note of the do’s and dont’s for his next voyage. He is also candid in telling us that upon knowing his legs were not obeying his command, the thought of being paralyzed for life crossed his mind; which is when he thought he would start preparing for the Paralympics in that case! This gives me more clarity about the nature of resilience- identifying and then using resources effectively to battle the adversity, and having a crystal clear distinction of the factors within and beyond one’s control.
Not having someone to talk to for months in a row, the sheer task demanding one to succeed at being a sailor, engineer, doctor, mechanic all at once; beating storms, enduring immense pain and lack of sleep are but a few challenges that these naval officers at VEDH and later Cdr. Tomy through his many interviews made me aware of. At the same time, they also helped it dawn upon me that along with the winds, it is resilience that gives direction to the voyage.
What we call the world is in fact our limited view of the world. We can never know the whole of it. The same goes in case of different professions. Coming to the role of VEDH in developing perspective, again, two visualizations take shape in the mind’s eye. On the surface of it, the function of VEDH can be looked at as an orchard: making the youth aware of a multitude of career avenues. The deeper one dives however, all these roads are seen converging on one point- the point of self growth. As unconnected I have been with the seas, Cdr. Tomy, Captain Donde and VEDH taught me what it takes to complete a voyage.
For every story of a storm Cr. Tomy and Captain Donde had to tell, I could see the storm of sheer will, perseverance and resilience within them that had helped them sail through the ones around their boat.
As the saying goes…
Fate whispered to the warrior,
“You cannot withstand the storm.”
The warrior whispered back,
“I am the storm.”
To all of us I say, Let the storm brew within!
-Ketaki Joshi,
Voluneer,
Pune VEDH.
References
Link to Cdr. Tomy and Captain Donde’s Pune VEDH session: https://youtu.be/sDLnPLaRvpQ
Cdr. Tomy’s interview for Hindustan Times: https://youtu.be/11J8pPHZ8R0
Cdr. Tomy’s TEDx talk: https://youtu.be/jlAjbKyCFLY
Capt. Donde’s TEDx talk: https://youtu.be/NJGJEvmie3M

